2019 was the year of many firsts! The year started with a celebration of Jacksons 1st birthday. Followed shortly by his 1st day of daycare, 1st words, 1st dance moves, 1st temper tantrum any much much more. To say it was a year of learning is an understatement, in fact, I think Chase & I learned more about ourselves as parents (and partners) in 2019 than we did in 2018, the year Jackson was born.
Flipping gears quickly, I had a lot of visions for my blog in 2019. I anticipated reaching 10k followers, sharing more on stories, writing at least one blog post a week, reaching out to brands for future partnerships, the list goes on. About 5 months into this year, I started feeling defeated and like I was failing at my goals. I found myself questions & comparing myself to other bloggers. I was frustrated & felt like I was failing.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I was growing tremendously in my full time position. I was promoted & happier than ever at work. I felt successful & proud.
I experienced a wide variety of emotions & thoughts during that time & often thought about putting a pause on my blog all-together.
I said above that 2019 was the year of learning, as a parent and as a partner. For me it was also in my personal growth. The truth is, I succeeded in some of my goals, and terribly failed in others. And that is OKAY. About one month after the up and down rollercoaster of emotions I talked about above, I learned an important lesson. I learned to give myself grace. I learned to take a break (and a breath) every now & then. I learned to JUST DO ME — what works for ME, what makes ME happy. At that point I decided to redefine “success.” Success is not in the numbers of followers I may have or the number of blog posts I can get out each week. Success is in the memories I create with my family. Success is in the positive comments that you, my followers, share with me when you find a piece of clothing that makes you feel 100! Success is in our daily smiles & the belly laugh outbursts from my son.
So with that said, as you reflect on 2019, I encourage you not to focus on the goals you didn’t achieve, but rather the moments of success in your life. Big or small, whatever that might mean to you. 2019, you were a dang good year (and it was an even better decade) but BRING IT ON 2020!
Happy New Year from our family to yours!